Astro Iris What area of life matters most to you? Where are you actually putting your energy?
In a recent conversation I caught myself talking about what I’d love to do and how I want to help in this world.
Up until that moment I only knew I wanted to do something in some area of life—I had a vague sense of it, but the concept itself was foggy. I didn’t really know what or how.
That thought lived in my head almost every day. After a while it started feeling frustrating because I couldn’t rationally pin it down.
When the frustration finally reached a level I was no longer willing to tolerate, I basically let the thought go. Not in a “I give up” way, but in a gentle, natural “it is what it is” acceptance.
A few months passed (maybe 3–4). Then, out of nowhere recently, I found myself speaking about a concept very closely tied to that deep, unnamed desire. The very thing I couldn’t define for so long arrived on its own—without me gripping it with white knuckles anymore.
We’ve all been told (and we’re still being told) that energy flows where attention goes. That’s where we start building.
What almost nobody tells us is where we should direct that energy in the first place. That part is actually the most important.
That’s why we’re often genuinely surprised—pleasantly or unpleasantly—by the results we get in the life areas we’ve poured intention into at some point.
So… which area of life is the wisest place to focus our energy?
Option A: We can do the inner detective work and figure it out more consciously.
Option B: We can just live, experiment, and let life show us.
In the second case, the answer usually reveals itself as the area we feel most deeply drawn to—the one where we feel we need to be.
That pull is the compass. That area is disproportionately important for us, and that’s where most of our energy naturally wants to go (or should go).
When we miss that signal and keep investing in lower-priority areas—or in things that require only minimal energy—the results tend to stay minimal too.
It’s like your soul is screaming “Career is where I want to grow!” but you keep choosing to pour everything into family.
Or the reverse: you’re grinding 24/7 on the laptop 💻 while your deepest need is actually family 🧑🧑🧒🧒.
One of those two usually has clear priority.
Or think of it this way: you love cats 🐈 with all your heart… yet you come home with a dog 🐕. Nobody quite knows why.
Maybe you want two million euros 💶 in your bank account, and you focus on that so obsessively that you eventually forget who you even are. Because some other area of life is actually the one that’s truly important for you right now.
The way you feel + the way you evolve = the life area you’ve chosen to invest in.
When you stubbornly invest where your biggest need isn’t, life usually intervenes—and quite often it does so rather bluntly. It creates situations that force your energy back to where it’s truly needed.
Also worth remembering: depending on the current stage of our evolution, the #1 need can (and very frequently does) shift temporarily. Once we’ve met the growth that particular phase asked for, the major focus usually returns to its long-term home—the area with the biggest impact on our life.
So my invitation is simple:
Put your attention on your biggest current need. Or needs, if you have more than one at the moment.
There’s always at least one area that genuinely needs your energy and attention right now.
Here’s a helpful question you can sit with:
“What area of my life is most important for my growth right now, and where should I be placing my attention?”
If you’re struggling to figure it out, I’m happy to help.
Just one message away—always glad to support.
